Have y’all seen the movie “Fireproof”? It’s rather good, but yes heavily Christian based. I originally watched because well the Duggar family members are extras and I heard about it watching one of their shows. (Yes. I like the show. Get over it. I don’t agree with everything, but for the most part I like the show.)
Plus I was engaged at the time and Alex had heard good things about it as well so we watched it. We felt great about. We vowed to live a Fireproof marriage.
Ha. Haha. Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha HA.
Life happened. We um, failed, at our goal in a lot of ways. HOWEVER – we have never given up, so in that sense we are living the life.
This year, following a series of really great blog topics that I cannot blog about (I know I know…how annoying of me to even mention this) which is driving me LOONEY and major life stressors, Alex and I had our second wedding anniversary. My gift to him was a gun cleaning mat. So he would quit using our bath towels.
He gave me the “365 Love Dare: Wedding Edition” so we could begin a year of daily devotions and weekly dares to get back to a place where our lives and our marriage are Fireproof. (Clearly he trumps me in the gift giving area this year.)
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So far we’re 11 days in and it has gotten harder. Not harder to read so much as harder to fulfill the tasks set aside. After a long day at work and then coming home to laundry and / or dinner all either of us wants to do is veg out. Taking the 10 minutes to read the daily devotion isn’t the hard part. It’s the journaling and the weekly dares that are tough right now. But they are building blocks to a better him, a better me, and ultimately a better us which is awesome.
Also awesome? We’re praying together every single night. That’s a HUGE improvement over well 1. Not praying at all and 2. Not necessarily taking time to connect every night. Even if we don’t reconnect at any other point of our night, we both know we’ll have devotion and prayer time together.
I’ll be straight up with y’all, it’s not the best. It’s not 100% where I want to be, but at least it’s moving in the right direction. I’m curious, has anyone else heard of The Love Dare? Completed it? If not, would you be willing to give it a go with your spouse?
What were your overall thoughts?
We went to see Fireproof together when it was in the theaters, and I think A. teared up a little bit (shhh, don’t tell!). I bought him the DVD and the love dare book for our 1st anniversary….but I’ll be honest, we haven’t really cracked it open. :-/ I think it’s really great that y’all are doing it together!!
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I will say this, we’re three weeks in and its gotten a LOT harder than I realized
Even 11 days is really good. They say it takes six weeks to form a habit so you’re nearly 1/3 of the way there!
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So we’re not counting those days we skipped and had to go back and make up are we?
Don’t be embarrassed – I admit, I love the Duggars!
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Teheh so does my Dad I found out!
First of all, I adore the Duggar family. They may have about 18 children too many in the eyes of society, but they make it work and I don’t look at their children and think any of them aren’t having their needs met. I only have two girls, twins, and there are days when I wonder if I’m giving them everything they need. So, hats off to them!
I saw the move Fireproof and loved it. My husband hasn’t ever watched it, but I’ve talked to him about it. I’d love to do something like this. We don’t pray together either, and I’ve always wanted a husband that I could pray with. I used to do a daily devotional, too, when I was single, and somehow I got away from doing that. The Love Dare sounds like such a simple thing to do, but I’m sure it’s not easy when, like you said, at the end of the day you just want to relax. I think the best marriages we see are “the best” because they work at it. I hope this starts to get a little easier for you, once you get the hang of it! I definitely want to ask my hubby about this now.
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The Love Dare is really great at keeping us praying. We used to never pray and now we pray every day as a couple. That may be our only “together” time in a really busy day but its reassuring to know we’ll always have that time.
This is a good idea. It probably helps to devote a few minutes each day just to not take each other for granted. As more and more time goes by, we get comfortable in our daily routines that sometimes we need to stop, take a breath and remember each other.
Thanks for that!
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Hi Stephanie,
I’m visiting from SITS and i must admit, i love this concept and am going to have to check out this book. After more than a decade of marriage and 3 kids, it’s always hard for Superhubby and I to find ways to reconnect. It just takes a few minutes, but important to remember. I will be following along in your adventures! Thanks for sharing the great idea…Tanya
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Hey I would love for you to link up your journey with mine. Just go to http://www.twinkle-in-time.com/p/love-dare-challenge.html and add yours to my linky.
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