The past few weeks we’ve kind of been lackadaisical in our Love Dare. In fact, we’ve considered quitting. It’s just been really hard to share the love.
Moving a 3rd person into your home is hard. Its harder when you have different view points on the matter. I’m not going to pretend the last week has been super-duper easy (it hasn’t) but we keep plugging away. The church we attend (City on a Hill) did something really awesome and hosted a free showing of the movie Courageous.
{SNAKE KINGS BABY!}
(That really only makes sense if you’ve watched the movie. However, if you haven’t seen the movie check out the YouTube of that scene. It’s not the best quality but omg, HILARIOUS.)
Anyway, sorry had to just relive that scene myself. After we watched the movie we were actually able to come home and do our next day dare. The focus was greeting your spouse. I think this is an area we really struggle with especially during times of stress. We are grumpy from work, life, and rather than reach out to one another as the support structure we are supposed to be we end up shoving each other away emotionally. We might as well be on opposite sides of the track.
I come home later than Alex and I tend to use the excuse that “well he doesn’t get up” as the reason I don’t walk in the door and kiss him. He uses the excuse that “I don’t just relax and smile” as his reason for not getting up and greeting me. The thing is, I’m tired of excuses. This dare will be one of our harder ones to overcome because a lot of these movements are kind of gut reaction and habit. Translation – they take no thought and we do them anyway.
My goal this week though is to live this dare. (Save me, help me, think of me!) Which means even if my hubby reacts with a grumble or a growl I WILL be greeting him with a kiss. Even if we have a text argument (please tell me we aren’t the only people who fight via texting) I will come home and kiss him hello. Even if I walk in two hours after him, and he and our HG (house guest) are lying on their arses staring at the t.v. while the dishes lie in our sink, dinner remains un-handled, and laundry is piled up I WILL be loving in my greeting.
I may also drive myself to drink by Friday, but hey – who said love was easy! Will you join me in being active in greeting your loved one this week?
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And that’s why dogs are awesome – they never forget the importance of a good greeting. Good luck!
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LOL I hate to challenge this, but my dog…doesn’t greet me. The cat however – he’s my best bud. Thanks for the luck!
I think what you are planning is great. A hug and a kiss work wonders.
Have you had the discussion about how long your “guest” can stay? He really needs to be given a deadline on when he has to move out. (I’d say a month max!)
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We’ve had a discussion in our house yes. As for the hug and kiss – you are correct it works wonders, if only men caught on to that as well!
This looks like a great post you have shared for us.. I hope a lot of people would be very interested to share this too..
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Definitely a good thing for us to work on! Everyone can always be better at this I think.
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It sounds like you have a great plan!
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Hi Stephanie, I found your blog from a link on Mama Kats page……I LOVE the Love Dare, I loved the movie (Fireproof) and I loved the movie Courageous (Snake Kings!) Like you, my husband and I…..actually, just me, my husband never knew I was reading it, I never finished the Love Dare. I am so inspired by your Love Dare post, and how you actually blogged about it….when I did read it, and followed through with the dares, it felt good. This is just a sign to me that I need to get back doing it, and keep at it.